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What Place Ritual?

Filed under: Uncategorized — September 11, 2011 @ 3:35 pm

I happen to be writing this on the tenth anniversary of the attacks of 9/11/01.  There are all sorts of articles in the newspaper, documentaries on television, internet blogs and tributes, ceremonies large and small in communities across the United States.  The reaction of people I know to this melange varies from indifference to disapproval to participation to immersion.  It’s an interesting study in how people approach memory, remembrance and ritual.

Ritual factors highly in Judaism.  It is used to bring meaning to both the sublime and the mundane.  There are prayers to recognize extraordinary occurrences and for the completion of everyday tasks.  Having ritual in a time of crisis can lend a sense of direction and comfort when confusion and indecision reign.

As a therapist, I have come to value the usefulness of ritual in emotional healing. It can provide structure when one is struggling to find some sense of meaning in pain.  When meaning can’t be found, ritual can help in the gentle settling-in of acceptance.   In the end, the form and factor of the ritual is not important to anyone but the one who creates and enacts it:  the ritual must simply speak to and for the individual in that particular moment.

So today I don’t feel the need to watch the televised ceremonies and documentaries, nor do I feel a communal yearning to bond with my fellow human beings.  I haven’t pulled out the clippings or mementos stored away for ten years.  I haven’t copied and pasted any of the myriad status updates floating around the internet.  I haven’t told the story of where I was “when” or what I did “then.”

Today I simply wrote this essay.

Sunrise

Filed under: Uncategorized — July 14, 2011 @ 7:06 am

6:30 a.m. drive to work, heading into the sun on Appletree Road.  I encountered a doe grazing at the edge of the road, so I stopped to look at her.  Close enough to see every whisker on her muzzle, her black nose and shining eyes.  We just looked at each other calmly, accepting each others’ presence, and then went about our morning.  A nice start to the day.

Fifteen Years Ago Today

Filed under: Uncategorized — July 10, 2011 @ 12:26 pm

Tonight at 7:48 pm it will have been fifteen years since Max entered the world.  His birth was a smooth event, with the small but not unimportant exception of our having to disabuse the delivery room observing EMT of the notion that he would be cutting the umbilical cord.

William Maxwell has always been Max.  He is a smart, funny, and interesting individual.  You may not think he is paying attention to what is going on around him, but then he will make a singular, pointed comment that lets you know what he sees and what he thinks.  As he gets older, his dry wit becomes more and more sophisticated - he can be dangerous if you let him!

He enjoys his friends, knows how to have fun, and surrounds himself with really nice people who appreciate him and who he, in turn, appreciates.
Max likes to cook.  His love of a good dry rub has him plotting when he can smoke some ribs on the grill.  Hopefully we will enable him to bring this to fruition before he has to go off to camp in a few weeks.

Without completely embarrassing him, let’s just say Max is a really awesome kid, and we love him.

(We used images from this book in the birth announcement the we had “Max-imized our family!”)

Huh. Guess it’s time to get back in the blogging saddle.

Filed under: Uncategorized — July 4, 2011 @ 7:13 pm

When I posted the “Test” entry in March, I could not access any of the archives of this blog.  Now it’s all back.  I will just assume my WordPress guru did some magic for me and updated things that needed to be updated.

Of course, now the question is what to do with this page.  With everyone living on Facebook, what is the relevance of this, anyway?  Do we use it to keep family who don’t connect thru other sites up to date on things.  Does it become a vanity press for the author/editor to spout off about things that interest her?  Time to reassess, make some plans, and then act.

Test

Filed under: Uncategorized — March 26, 2011 @ 12:34 pm

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What Cats Do When We Sleep

Filed under: Uncategorized — January 26, 2009 @ 7:34 pm

Now the truth can be known.  We are just furniture for the cats.

Righteous Gentile

Filed under: Uncategorized — December 8, 2008 @ 7:37 pm


Nanny moves to Israel with boy orphaned in Mumbai

Dec 8, 5:09 PM (ET)

By AMY TEIBEL

(AP) Indian nanny Sandra Samuel kisses Moshe Holtzberg, 2, orphan of Rabbi Gavriel Noach Holtzberg and…
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MIGDAL HA-EMEK, Israel (AP) - After hiding for hours in the besieged Jewish center in Mumbai, Sandra Samuel suddenly heard a cry that made her forget all fear for her own safety: 2-year-old Moshe was calling his nanny’s name.Ignoring crackling gunfire and exploding grenades, she says she charged up the stairs and found the toddler crying by his mother’s body, his pants soaked in blood. She grabbed the child and ran with him to safety.Today, the 44-year-old Indian woman, a Christian, is the Orthodox Jewish toddler’s only remaining link to the life he once knew. Moshe Holtzberg’s Israeli parents died in the assault. Samuel, a recent widow, has left her own two sons and her homeland to move with the child to Israel, where she says she will stay “as long as my baby needs me.”

On Monday, Moshe cheerfully touched and identified in English the animal statues that rimmed the garden of his great-uncle’s home, where he and Samuel are staying in this small northern Israeli town.

(AP) Indian nanny Sandra Samuel plays with Moshe Holtzberg, 2, orphan of Rabbi Gavriel Noach Holtzberg…
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He sought out Samuel repeatedly, though, smiling as he nestled in her arms.

There was no sign of the inconsolable orphan whose plight captivated millions, his anguished cries of “Eema, Eema!” - “Mommy! Mommy!” - shown worldwide in broadcasts of his parents’ memorial service last week.

“At the beginning, he would burst out crying, but that’s tapered off,” the child’s great-uncle, Yitzhak David Grossman, said. “But he clings to Sandra.”

The trauma has receded, Samuel told The Associated Press. “But he is a baby. He wants to know why his Eema is not coming, why is Abba not coming,” she said, using the Hebrew words for mommy and daddy.

Grossman, the chief rabbi of Migdal Ha-emek, was able to get Samuel a one-year passport and a three-month tourist visa to Israel so the boy would have a familiar face as he recovered from the trauma.

(AP) Indian nanny Sandra Samuel holds Moshe Holtzberg, 2, orphan of Rabbi Gavriel Noach Holtzberg and…
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Sabine Haddad, a spokeswoman for Israel’s Interior Ministry, said Monday that Interior Minister Meir Sheetrit wants to grant Samuel the status of “Righteous among the Nations,” an honor bestowed upon non-Jews who save the lives of Jews. It would allow her to stay in Israel as long as she wished.

Samuel, who has taken care of Moshe since he was born, worked for more than five years for the child’s parents, Rabbi Gabriel Noach Holtzberg and his wife, Rivkah - whom she calls “my rabbi” and “my Rivki” - in the Mumbai headquarters of the Orthodox Chabad-Lubavitch movement.

It was to have been a temporary job, she said, but she was so captivated by their generous, courageous spirits that she stayed on.

The day of the attack, Nov. 26, had been like any other at the Mumbai Jewish center, the 44-year-old nanny recalled. She had just put the baby to sleep and the dining room was being cleaned up when “suddenly the noise starts. Boom, boom, boom.”

At first, she thought it was children playing in the open space outside the house. She came out of the kitchen to scold them when she saw a man with a gun take aim at her. She slammed the door shut, still not sure if the gun was real or a toy - until she saw the bullet hole in the door.

She dialed the rabbi’s cell phone, heard a mix of voices, but still didn’t understand that the house was under attack. There was no screaming from upstairs, where the hostages were, though she said she did hear Rivkah Holtzberg cry and call out her husband’s name, as well as things being thrown and shoved.

Gunfire and grenade explosions followed. The house was under siege - a takeover that would end only after Indian commandos, some rappelling onto the roof from a helicopter, stormed it 36 hours later.

Samuel hid between two refrigerators for hours, leaving her hiding place the next morning only “when I heard my baby cry.” She found Moshe standing by his mother’s body in a corridor; his father lay nearby, sprawled on his stomach. She also saw the bloody legs of another man.

Cradling the child in her arms, she sprinted out of the house to safety.

Samuel said she did not believe the Holtzbergs were dead at the time she fled, though she did see blood near the rabbi’s leg. Four other Jews also died in the attack.

Samuel wonders whether the gunmen might have knocked the boy unconscious. She said he had five finger-shaped bruises on his back and did not cry out during the night as he usually did. A spokesman for Chabad in Israel, Menachem Brod, has said the family did not think the boy was abused.

Samuel is having trouble coming to terms with the horror of the attack.

“Even now, I can’t really believe it has happened,” she said.

On the Net:

http://www.chabad.org

Musical Plagiarism?

Filed under: Uncategorized — December 6, 2008 @ 8:18 pm

I am always interested to listen to the music involved when there is an accusation of plagiarism.  Today’s news included an article about whether Coldplay stole their hit, “Viva La Vida” from guitarist Joe Satriani’s  “If I Could Fly.”

Curious, I did a search and found this on YouTube.  Check it out, as well as the full remix done by the same poster.

I found it to be a no-brainer, but I’d love to know what others think.

YouTube pulled the links due to EMI complaints, so try this link instead.

Olympic Tae Kwon Do: Triumph, or Embarrassment?

Filed under: Uncategorized — August 25, 2008 @ 4:11 pm

It’s always interesting to watch the tae kwon do competition at the Olympics. This year’s judging was at times questionable. I was glad to learn that it wasn’t just me - many of the delegations have questioned how judges could miss valid hits. Some changes need to be made for the future integrity of the sport. Still, the USA took two silver and one bronze, which is nothing to sneeze at.

I was dismayed by the unbelievable behavior displayed by the Cuban men’s heavyweight competitor in the bronze medal match.

Respect is at the core of the practice of tae kwon do. There is simply no excuse for this behavior. None.

Camp Harlam Updates for 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — August 8, 2008 @ 4:23 pm

Here are some pictures from Harlam:

1st Session K’far Noar Boys

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Rick Recht Concert 1st Session

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Photo evidence of Brian’s developing sophistication at pulling pranks. 2nd Session, Opening Day

“How nice, Brian is playing tether ball with his friends at K’far Noar Village.”

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“They seem to be having a good time.”

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“Hey, what’s that on your shirt, Brian?”

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What we want to know is, did anyone buy it?

More 2nd Session Pics. Now Max is at camp, too.

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Video chug.

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In K’far Noar, line dancing appears to be required.

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Recover from the dancing by playing volleyball.

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No dancing here.

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Israeli Friendship Caravan Concert

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